Transcending the Self

Dear Friends,

Here is the latest episode of Paradoxically Speaking — a podcast with my good friend Brandon Tumblin (from The Strong Stoic Newsletter). For anyone new to Paradoxically Speaking, these are casual conversations attempting to explore the complexities and nuances of living our highest good in the modern world.

Portrait of Frank Burty Haviland by Amedeo Modigliani (1914)

What is Paradoxically Speaking?

Paradoxes exist nearly everywhere — even in the area of self-improvement. In the classic On Becoming a Person, psychologist Carl Rogers wrote, “The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.” When you encounter a paradox — there is potential and opportunity within the tension.

As the nineteenth-century Danish physicist Niels Bohr put it, “How wonderful that we have met with a paradox. Now we have some hope of making progress.”

Paradoxically Speaking explores principles and practices from multiple sides. For example, we are interested in human goodness (virtue) and our capacity for evil (vice). The wisdom of connection and the power of solitude. The importance of structure and the need for flexibility. Although we intentionally explore life's complexities, we strive to keep things practical.

Self Portrait by Ivan Aivazovsky (1890)

Transcending the Self

This episode of Paradoxically Speaking explores the themes of transcending the self and the importance of compassion and concern for others. It delves into the influence of beliefs and perspectives on connectedness and the challenges of balancing self-care and selflessness. The conversation emphasizes the importance of self-reflection and honest assessment of one's actions and virtues. The discussion also highlights the idea that developing oneself and acquiring capabilities is essential for being useful to others in the future.